Rule #6
Cultivate your friendships
You are more than just a caretaker, a mother, a wife, a daughter and a worker. You need more than just your job, your kids, your mate, you need more; you need the kind of people that like you because you’re you as opposed to what you can do for them, the kind of people that you can commensurate about the reality of life that nothing is perfect and we’re all in this together. These are the kind of people that we can talk to about our problems, that aren’t your life’s problems, the kind of people that are our support group. I think of my friends as a support group and wine as Prozac and they’re less expensive than therapy, they’ll make you feel interesting and young and vile. Girlfriends are very important.
Rule #7
Learn to depend on others
The quest for perfection often causes us to decide if you can do this better, the time it takes for that other person to do it when you could already have done it. People who do too much are often surrounded co-dependently by people that have learned to master helplessness. Learn to delegate, learn to give the people the responsibilities that they should be having because every answer doesn’t have to come from you.
Rule #8
Take time to go over your accomplishments
Instead of focusing on what you didn’t get done, focus on what you did get done because that’s when you realize the long list of things that you’ve accomplished in such a short period of time.
Rule #9
You are a mere mortal
Take time to pray, to reflect, to meditate on that which is greater than you are. Take time each day to silence the world around you and be grateful for your blessings. Humility, spirituality, and gratitude bring inner peace, which is the only thing that lets you survive day-by-day.
Rule #10
Adopt a positive attitude
You can alter your life by literally adopting a positive attitude on things. You are blessed to be in a position to have everything you have, so you should look at your kids, your family, your parents, your job as a blessing because the reason you’re doing it is to have a happy life. These are things that you have to adapt with a positive attitude because these are the things that are not chores, but choices and blessings.
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