Mental health has always been a difficult subject to discuss and many live with depression without even knowing they have it. Smiling depression is something that many keep quiet, it’s a term coined for people who are depressed but live their everyday lives in an upbeat positive fashion.
This type of depression often goes unnoticed because you never really know. The person can be extremely upbeat yet, still longing for someone to help them with their problems. According to Rita Labeaune, Psy.D, smiling depression often goes unnoticed because those suffering often brushing their feelings aside, or don’t want to seem weak.
An example of someone with smiling depression is usually an individual who has their life together. This person can have an extremely successful career, a solid marriage and even goes to party once in a while but they never really are happy on the inside. These individuals often have a difficult time seeking help because society sets a standard in their eyes, which is, that their life is perfect and they shouldn’t be complaining. This is an example of just one of many people who live with smiling depression.
Here are common symptoms of what those suffering from smiling depression have to live through:
- They believe they’re not good enough
- They possess a poor self-image, emptiness, emotional numbness, self-critical behavior, high expectations for self/unmet expectations
- Feel lost or diminished interest in or pleasure from previously enjoyed activities
- Weight loss or weight gain
- Under sleeping or oversleeping, fatigue
- Worthlessness, guilt
- Difficulty concentrating
- Thoughts of death or dying
There are several ways of helping with smiling depression.
Acknowledging the existence of depression
This is the biggest step. The fear of acknowledging that you’ve had a bad friend behind your back for a long time. It will hurt but it needs to happen, negative feelings are not weakness but distress.
This small step can lead to finally seeing a therapist. Find a friend or someone you can trust to just sit down and talk to. It will help.
Nurture your self-esteem
Start a positivity journal, find a new hobby, or treat yourself to something special! You have to love yourself and take care of yourself before anything else.