There are more and more moms that are having children later in life, and many who had a child in their teens, remarried and are now having babies, resulting in siblings that are decades apart. Evelyn Lozada from Basketball Wives LA, has a 23-year-old and a 3-year-old and explains that motherhood this time around was very different than the first time.
One of the perks of having children that are so far apart in age is that the older sibling can help, but communication is key. “Always keep the lines of communication open. My daughter and I talk about everything with no judgment from me, so she always comes to me for advice instead of her friends.” This is one of the advantages of having a child when you are very young, you too are young and can relate to them better than when you are an older parent.
She says that Leo has her wrapped around his little finger. She thought she was going to be a strict mom, but she turned out to be cool and strict at the same time, so she had to find a balance. “Leo determines what I do with my day. I pretty much live my life at the zoo, aquarium, park, museum. People would probably be surprised to know that I actually love going to Disneyland–a few years ago I would have told you, hell no!”
Lozada had Leo 21 years after her daughter, so it was really difficult to adjust to having a newborn at home. “Thank God my family was there to help, and putting him on a nightly routine also put him on track. It took a while though.,” she says.
Her advice to mom’s going through the same thing as she is to never give up. It’s difficult but well worth it. “Make time for yourself and trust and believe things will always be better. Stay positive,” says Lozada.